Greetings. Today I would like to address the
issue of whiners.
There is nothing that makes me angrier than whiners. I am so angry
at all whiners, that you cannot even understand at all, like, what
I am talking about when I say "Whiners make me angry". My
feelings towards whiners are most likely incomparable in intensity
towards the feelings you have ever had towards anything.
Whiners are wasting their lives, and looking for sympathy. This makes
me want to do horrible things to them, but on the contrary, I try
to explain to them why they should not be whiners.
1). There are many beautiful things in life that whiners are overlooking.
Only a few things in this existence are worth taking seriously: Nature,
Love, and Creation (creativity, if you want, but the meanings are
subtly different, which is a whole different essay). Everything else
2). Your fate is in your own two stupid hands. Stop acting helpless.
Bad things will happen to you because you are resigned whiners. For
instance, in some cases, you will find that people ignore you and
you have "no friends" (although, ironically, most whiners
DO have friends whom THEY ignore). It is funny that in many of these
cases, people are ignoring you because you whine, and they're offended
that their friendship means so little to you that you complain about
junk all the time. If you say, "This and this is going to happen
to me," sooner or later, it will. No. I don't want to hear your
fashionable depression bull. I am right, and that's that.
3). Depression and whining are self-perpetuating. If you feel bad
about stuff, you feel worse about stuff. Then you feel worse. And
worse. And we all have to hear about it. Guess what: Emotions can
be controlled. You have a choice to feel good or bad about anything.
They are YOUR reactions, make use of them to benefit YOU.
4). After the 50th time you tell us how bad your life is, no one
has any sympathy for you anymore (even if they pretend, and they do,
because your self-esteems are so fragile). But that's okay. Because,
obviously, sympathy is no good, since you're STILL whining. See #2--other
people cannot help you feel good.
5). Your situation is not bad. There are people worse off than you,
and people who have been through the same things. No, I don't care
what the exact circumstances of your tragic dilemma are. There are
a lot of people in the world, and this still applies.
6). Love yourself before you try to love others. If you do this the
wrong way around, you will use others to make you feel better about
yourself. Love is about what you can do for another person, not what
the other person can do for you. This is a tragic mistake. Love will
not solve your problems, if you don't know how to solve your own problems,
love will create many, many more.
7). People care about you. Stop trying to look like a poor, dejected,
tragic figure. This is fashionable in today's age, but never attractive.
It's fine to complain once in a while. In fact, it can be an enjoyable
pastime. Chronic whining about how infinitely horrible your life is,
however, is exactly what will lead your life to be infinitely horrible.
Pretty soon, nobody is going to like you, because whiners bring forth
only revulsion or temporary pity.
Listen to what I'm saying. If I'm saying anything, it's usually gone
through a complex process of me making sure that I know what I'm talking
about. I am right. You are wrong. If you're offended by this, there
is no hope for you.
--->Arne Gustaf Swanberg
Skalm av Suomi